Hope Resurrected, What a Difference One Year Can Make

Wood_Anemone "Easter Flowers"_-_Hooke_-_geograph_org_uk_-_1247605 CCA year ago on March 27, 2014, I began this blog in tears. I did not believe my son would survive his heroin addiction. It had been going on for over 15 years and the past six months had been especially hard. One overdose on my bathroom floor. Two more several months later. He was alone and lost on the streets. He’d given up hope and so had I. Almost. This blog was my way to hold onto a slim thread of hope and to work through the rage and despair.

A year later, on March 27, 2015, my son married the love of his life and became the father to her 4-year-old son. The matching dates are coincidental. But how eloquently it underscores the progress he’s made in 12 months and the resurrected hope we share.

The journey toward this day has not been smooth, as recorded in these posts over the past 12 months. And the journey ahead will be just as difficult. Next week he will celebrate 11 months of recovery. The week after he will graduate from the court-appointed program he began a year ago, his probation will end, and he will be a free man. He plans to continue in the Methadone program that has been such a great help to him. Without it, I do not think this would have been possible.

But it wasn’t just the Methadone. It was being–finally, at long last–so sick and tired of being sick and tired that the drug life had no more appeal for him. It was finding a good AA sponsor who got him off to a good start. It was meeting a beautiful woman who fell in love with him, and sticking with each other through the bad days and the good. And it was having a mother who dug in hard and refused to give up on him, even when I thought it was a hopeless effort.

I hope this is a message of hope to all the mothers out there trying to help sons and daughters lost to addiction.

Still, the journey is not over. The way ahead for my son and his new family is almost unbelievably hard. That they have the strength and heart to walk that path together humbles me. Neither have been able to find steady work. He still lives in a shed. She lives in a homeless shelter having been timed-out from a program that helps single moms and kids.. They spend time together in motels and at our home. She’s finally been approved for Section 8 housing and has two months to find a landlord that will accept her. If that falls through there’s a program in the Bay Area that helps struggling families, so they will go there. He’s found out that under a new California law he can get his non-violent, drug-related felonies removed, and that will open up new employment and housing opportunities.

I don’t know how this story will end, but they feel stronger together than they do on their own. She has never had any substance-abuse problems, but her life has been extremely difficult and she has mental health issues that have never been addressed. Still, she is kind and smart and sweet, a wonderful mother and crazy in love with my son. They are determined to build a safe and stable and happy life together.

They married alone at City Hall. But they plan a wedding celebration next year on their first anniversary. We’ll find out then what one year will bring them. If it’s anything like this past year, we will be abounding in blessings.

We have so much to celebrate this Easter–the resurrection of hope, the blooming of love, and the promise of a new life.

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17 thoughts on “Hope Resurrected, What a Difference One Year Can Make

  1. Thank you for sharing as it gives me hope for our daughter that maybe she’s come to the end of her drug use. Someone else is now overseeing her recovery program, for which I’m grateful. May your son & his wife & daughter be blessed each step of their journey.

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    • Lee Ann, I am so happy if this gives you some comfort. The success stories of others has always been that for me too. I feel like all us mothers with struggling sons and daughters are near and dear to each other. I feel such kinship with all of you.

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  2. Your & your son’s story as you know has mirrored me & mine. Unfortunately recently, after being clean for 2.5 years between jail time & a court-ordered program, he has fallen again. I am not sure exactly what he is doing but he is definitely using something, at least from my observation of his behavior. Just reading this victory with own precious your son has given me more hope to keep going. I won’t ever give up on him but I have admittedly been worn down in the last month or so. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. ❤

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  3. Reblogged this on Our Young Addicts and commented:
    An inspiring story that has many parallels to my son’s. It has been a true blessing to read this blog and share with readers here, too. You see? Together, we are a caring, hopeful and helpful community. We learn from each other and share in the journey no matter where we are. For parents, in particular, this story reminds me why we need to stay close to our young addicts – so that when they are ready to get sober and embrace recovery, we can be right there with them! MM

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  4. I am so excited to read this. I remember a beautiful comment you had on my blog in reference to not giving up on your addict. God Bless both of you and many more days of sobriety. You’re correct, you have to want to get sober.

    Art

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